Though most love the rush of Adrenalin that lust brings, this is the animal within us and not the spiritual side of us, though it is connected within us it is, it is the quick fix but also is the art of survival, the animal instinct in us is something that all of us seem to be drawn to, but what about some of us that want mostly the spiritual side.

Lately I have been told by friends and family to just go out and get laid, though I have two major issues with this, one is it has not fixed anything in the past it only makes me angry and depressed, two it is not what I want, so I am refusing to take advise of this kind and going with my spiritual side and leaving the animal at home.

The spiritual side of Love is companionship and sharing the love, both putting in the effort and not just one doing all the work for little or no reward, what I want and I am a male is to find someone to share my life with and not just the sexual organs with.

Though I have found most people live by there animal instinct to have sex and procreate, also for enjoyment, I am all for that but what has happened to the companionship the spiritual side of the relationship unit, I see it in families sometimes but I very rarely see it in couples with out kids.

I feel as though I am backwards in this thinking, but I feel people do not see this way, but in my heart and mind I am right, I know in christian teaching you need to wait till marriage but personally I do not believe marriage to be something someone else gives, it is up each individual who seeks.

So why am I not on the animal side what makes me tick, why do I weigh this as companionship first sex after, it does make it hard in a world where the quick fix is what everyone wants, I have yet to meet someone like me and if I do I will report back!

Though the actual translation for Dukkha I could not find though I did find a lot saying it does not mean suffering, unless you find you have trapped your thoughts in a loop of disgust disgruntled rage, for centuries we keep focused on the pain and suffering of our lives but are we really that bad off, really we have everything we need right here now.

But your saying but I don’t have enough for food or bills or to buy a house, all you need is a roof over your head a veggie garden, some clothes on your back, though for most this would be suffering, it would not equate to life for them, being none materialistic for some is suffering for others to have material objects is suffering, it comes down to your perspective and what you have been brought up to believe or how to view the world.

To suffer is to put yourself in your own personal hell, to over emphasis on objects including dramas, some forms of Christianity promote hell is were god sends you if your bad, as you are your own god you are the one suffering for yourself, you suffer in silence and blame what you think is an all knowing entity, we know that there is more to life than just us, there is a higher being, but it is only a consciousness that live in and outside of us observing not judging.

To suffer is to be trapped in ones own mind or world, the external influences do not trap your being, though some people get themselves into these positions and suffer immensely for there decisions, find there stuck in a situation, this is especially true when others are involved and you feel like you need to help them, but they are quite capable of helping themselves, though then there are circumstances where you have to help them.

Basically suffering is about circumstance, your thoughts and your perspective.

What is the recipe for this thought and emotion….and a lot of, Patients and lots of it, but with time we all eventually master the balance that we call unexpected problems in life and with time all wounds heal, but we have allow them to heal as there are no quick fixes or mircles until we learn to master our thought and emotion.

So when things just fall into place it ends in a mircle from inside you and is expressed outwardly, no one else can heal you or your problems, it is just you and you alone that needs to do the work.

Are you asking for something you truly desire?

Most people ask for what they want, there is no desire in there heart to achieve, getting to the point when they can reach what they want or even need, asking for something also requires action from you.

Goals need action.

Dreams need action.

Action = Work

Who wants to work?

People who have goals and dreams.

The devolopment of ones ego can sometimes be overwhelming but its all comes down to your thought processes and teaching the ego, just as you teach a child to devolop morals, repeatative and consitant teachings, to teach your ego to be positive trade your thoughts and teach it each time you have a negative thought and or emotion.

Some people are naturals, such as charismatic and socially apt people, but a lot of us have to work hard just to make it through the day without being frustrated or annoyed at people that say something a certain way or speal there mind or wonder why they get by easily, maybe they just have a positive ego.

Well what you ask for and get are very close but being specific about what you want and what your life can afford at the time on getting it, they do say be careful what you wish for, it is more like be more specific about what you wish for and come to think about it last week I was watching the last bit of an X-Files episode where Mulder did say just that.

And with Christmas or birthday presents when you buy something for someone it is the thought that counts as well as the universe giving you what you want, the universe is doing its best and doing what is the thought and that’s why we need to train our selves to be more specific in what we dream and what we create.

And I am grateful for all I have as it allows me to enjoy every moment of my life as I like it to be, as well we all should be grateful for what we have.

They fact is most people do react to what others say and what your body language is, it could be because your pet chewed up your favourite pair of shoes or pooed at the back door who knows what actually happened to you are them in the preceeding day or week, they are not going to tell you there life story in a quick 2 min outburst, though I know some people who do, because its there choice to be in the mood they are in.

Why then do we always choose the negative, why not choose the positive and be positive towards others no matter what they are feeling emotionally, as well its only there body language that is only trying to show you there emotion, people say I am always grumpy and depressed, I work night shift so I am always tired and lacking sleep though emotionally I am not grumpy or depressed, well sometimes I am but usually not for long.

Your interpretation of what someone means or what mood they are in will most probably be misinterpreted most of the time, so if your find offence or are confused about or even concerned, you should speak to them and find out why this person is in the situation, speak to the person as they are a living being as you are, it’s no good for anyone if you just make things up in your head and then making a fool of yourself when you tell everyone else except for the person that you are inappropriately confused about.

Destiny could be your inner guide and choice your external guide, but which to follow, is it our in ability sometimes to make a decision that our inner guide makes us take destiny over choice, do we need to understand that face of reality that we always have a choice in what ever we do, all we need to do is make the decision prior to our destiny switch pushing us into the situation.

Chance is what we all call luck or being in the right place at the right time, or given that you have a chance to win or make the situation more enjoyable given the choice we all would, but when the chance goes the opposite direction we get frustrated and we no longer accept the situation, why should we we are not happy about it, we get angry and depressed with the game of chance.

What would you do if you could take chance and make it a choice, would you do it? would you do the hard work and make it happen, probably not because your too busy dealing with the chance that has made your life busy and difficult to cope with, we should all take time out each day to process thought and reduce the game of chance, and allow either our inner guide called destiny or our conscious choice take over our real world and not allow our subconscious thoughts to control our lifes.

How does thought change the chance in our lifes, every thought we have has an influence on our lifes, we have been told this for centuries but have never used this tool, some rich and powerful people have for many centuries but the whole of the world needs to realize we need to watch our thoughts, “The Secret” made it popular and main stream, but there have been many books and teachers out there teaching us about thought changes life.

In life we are all on our own path but who built the path are we building the path as we go or is it in our nature to create and alternate reality which manifests itself in some way a week later and we all wonder why me, when it was a thought we had last week ago only being a passing thought, we just accept the thought and move on, but accepting the thought gives us what we don’t want, the thought has been processed, maybe just give it a no I do not want that thought, and take the chance out of life of the things we don’t want and only accept the thoughts we want to experience and create.

But worst of all I got knocked out at work by a falling jar of lemon spread, there was something going on, I used Tom Kenyons Holographic Mind to view things in more dimensions, it works wonderfully every time, I saw that I had some underlying thoughts that something was wrong, something was working against me.

This is where the thought process is important and even a lot more important than most people would beleive, it affects your life in an very subconscious out of view way, that most people explain as gods will, but we are all a part of god and we must take responsibility for our own thoughts.

Take responsibility for your own thoughts, work through your thoughts and enjoy your life like never before, there is help out there, another sound healer out there is Jonathon Goldman, or you can do the hard yards and follow the Abraham-Hicks system of changing your thoughts.

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Where can we find this evidence to find the truth, the truth is out there as they say, but how do we decipher between the both, there is one way we can all do this a with a lot of effort and practice, it all has to do with filtering the words that are spoken.

One persons view point can be completely different from a another persons, so what we need to do is to let go of our ego and follow our heart and emotions to find the truth, but how does this work, wouldn’t allowing people to use emotions to decipher the truth make it worse.

Not if they actually learnt and understand that the ego is the options in the process, every moment of our lives we do a survey on the situation we are in, the ego gives you the one we listen to the first the most prominent thought, this is what we first think in our minds, and most people react to this first thought.

Checking your emotion prior to speaking and finding the most appropriate thought to suit the most loving emotion to respond to your truth, then the lies in your life will dissipate over time, and you will be only living in the truth and love.

Living this way will remove those emotions that we no longer need, this is the next evolution we need to conquer to make us we we really are and to make this a better world to live in.