Encouragement how many of you encourage people without doing the, “your doing well aren’t you!” or the gentle encouragement, “you did your best!”, well the last one I see more as a put down the first one seems cynical to me, its not about what is said though is it, it is how you say it, or even how it is heard from the other person so how would you encourage a stranger or even someone you have interviewed for a job or have you had encouragement form a stranger.

The fact is sometimes just a smile is encouragement enough to help lift someones spirits, if someone has let you down do you still give that half wry smile, the smile is but the slightest effort and must be used daily an with everyone you meet, this is not a request, just do it, but your not in a good mood you say well stiff shit, your mood moves from you too another person too another person, all you do is complain?, smile no matter how you feel emotionally and when you get that smile back from the other person your mood is gone.

To accomplish encouragement is to focus on the weakness last as the first and begin by giving the person there strong points when disciplining someone, the fact is the good emotion out weights the bad in any circumstance, being the person on the receiving end of discipline is never good but giving that little edge over at the start will be the encouragement to make the change that is needed wether in a relationship or at work this works, but I am sure a few times it hasn’t for me but that was between male and female, which is a delicate situation that I have not figured out yet.

But I will give it a go here, to male your best to be blunt and to the point, we can handle it, but to a female it can be a dramatic moment if you all of a sudden take the encouragement and turn it in to you need to fix this or that, that’s just a no no, just send her and email or even just leave it until it’s your birthday. (I am scared, giving up now!)

Mannerism is the true key to giving someone encouragement its all about the delivery and when, to list someones spirits for doing a good job or being a great friend, always use an upbeat excited to be complimenting them and be genuine about every word you say with out sounding cynical or down right nasty, smile and say it from your heart.